NB: The use of "You" in this article is not alleging that you are guilty of all this piece will say. However it is a cue to let any mature reader introspect as they grasp the perspectives I am about to assert.
You can be royal when you choose to be. You know this because of the many things you overcome, the many battles you fight and win. However many of your things are still disorderly.
Family, friends, work colleagues agree on your strengths but your weakness is Facebook.
Yes... you! Don't worry. Me too.
So indeed your goals are solid and only you know them. You have good intentions for the most part, but Facebook it possesses you with a demon of toxicity.
Perhaps to make you more comfortable and feel better about those goals you've held for years but not materialized. The gossip is soothing.
"No she wouldn't be there if she wasn't sleeping with so and so..."
Or , "He only has this because he is evil. That's why he is better."
The mentality of public shaming in Whatsapp and Facebook forums is to intolerantly "whip others into conformity" by punishing them socially for not corresponding with your compass of good and bad.
The illusion of course is that you are a better person than them. So to project your hate you justify it first.
You justify it by making them bad. See, if you are a normal human being you have an internal purpose to do "good". So in order to do harm to another person you might have to lie to yourself or convince yourself on how there is a greater good to it.
This explains all cases of self righteous hatred. Watch any KKK documentary or read the ideologies of Al Qaeda and ISIS.
Far fetched?
Well that's how far self righteous hatred and bigotry can go. I insist it can even go further than that.
Look.
I don't agree with everything and everyones choices. There are choices other people make that would not fit my self concept. Should I expect everyone to live by my values and chosen beliefs?
Nope!
Can I express my feelings or opinions toward the behaviour of others?
Yes!
Yes because this post is me trying to convince people to be tolerant. So I am advocating for behavioural change which indeed is also like telling others how to live.
But no! I must not be insistent beyond personal boundaries or insult people for not agreeing with my world view.
So in essence I am not saying people cannot have opinions on other peoples lives. We are humans, we sense, intepret, generalize and form opinions.
I judge, you judge.
However making that a career. Serially hunting for who to judge and execute is a mental illness crippling our society.
The good Rabbi said, "He without sin may cast the first stone."
He was no David Blaine but watched them disappear.
I am guilty of it too. I threw a few rocks at how Vimbai Zimuto chose to present. I have in the past gone at Team Bho and Ill Manner. I am not automatically holy for speaking against that.
My post serves to urge anyone reading this to think about it.
1. Are you living by "how to live" 100% by your own standards. Be honest.
2. What makes you so important that others should take your suggestions over their own if they have already told you they disagree?
3. If you put as much effort you put on imposing on others "Who to be" on you. Would you be in the same place.
The paradox in this whole article is that I am indeed also suggesting how others must react to the lives of others but I am not forcing it down your throats.
The decision is yours
You can be royal when you choose to be. You know this because of the many things you overcome, the many battles you fight and win. However many of your things are still disorderly.
Family, friends, work colleagues agree on your strengths but your weakness is Facebook.
Yes... you! Don't worry. Me too.
You are susceptible to group thinking.
That's why your life is "Mvenge Mvenge". It is hard to base your choices on making people of various opinions happy & still maintain a direction you choose for your own life.So indeed your goals are solid and only you know them. You have good intentions for the most part, but Facebook it possesses you with a demon of toxicity.
Perhaps to make you more comfortable and feel better about those goals you've held for years but not materialized. The gossip is soothing.
The speculation!
"No she wouldn't be there if she wasn't sleeping with so and so..."
Or , "He only has this because he is evil. That's why he is better."
The mentality of public shaming in Whatsapp and Facebook forums is to intolerantly "whip others into conformity" by punishing them socially for not corresponding with your compass of good and bad.
The illusion of course is that you are a better person than them. So to project your hate you justify it first.
You justify it by making them bad. See, if you are a normal human being you have an internal purpose to do "good". So in order to do harm to another person you might have to lie to yourself or convince yourself on how there is a greater good to it.
This explains all cases of self righteous hatred. Watch any KKK documentary or read the ideologies of Al Qaeda and ISIS.
Far fetched?
Well that's how far self righteous hatred and bigotry can go. I insist it can even go further than that.
Look.
I don't agree with everything and everyones choices. There are choices other people make that would not fit my self concept. Should I expect everyone to live by my values and chosen beliefs?
Nope!
Can I express my feelings or opinions toward the behaviour of others?
Yes!
Yes because this post is me trying to convince people to be tolerant. So I am advocating for behavioural change which indeed is also like telling others how to live.
But no! I must not be insistent beyond personal boundaries or insult people for not agreeing with my world view.
So in essence I am not saying people cannot have opinions on other peoples lives. We are humans, we sense, intepret, generalize and form opinions.
I judge, you judge.
However making that a career. Serially hunting for who to judge and execute is a mental illness crippling our society.
The good Rabbi said, "He without sin may cast the first stone."
He was no David Blaine but watched them disappear.
I am guilty of it too. I threw a few rocks at how Vimbai Zimuto chose to present. I have in the past gone at Team Bho and Ill Manner. I am not automatically holy for speaking against that.
My post serves to urge anyone reading this to think about it.
Before you start telling others how to live.
1. Are you living by "how to live" 100% by your own standards. Be honest.
2. What makes you so important that others should take your suggestions over their own if they have already told you they disagree?
3. If you put as much effort you put on imposing on others "Who to be" on you. Would you be in the same place.
The paradox in this whole article is that I am indeed also suggesting how others must react to the lives of others but I am not forcing it down your throats.
The decision is yours
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